Table for one?
With it being Valentines week + in more recent years, also Galentines/Palentines; There’s lots of talk about the people we love. But I guess my thoughts are sitting more recently with our single friends. Probably not in the way you’d expect this blog to go either (feeling sorry for our poor, lonely single friends with […]
Sex goals?
I’m pretty sure that everywhere you look at the minute there’s goals, dreams and manifestations for 2025. The start of the year is a good chance to reflect on the year before and to look ahead to what you’d like the next year to bring. It’s a chance to change things we weren’t happy with, […]
Let’s Get Intimate
If you’ve been around The Missionary Position community a while now, you’ll know that intimacy doesn’t equal sex. Intimacy is so much more than any physical act and is something we can experience in lots of our relationships in lots of different ways! Some relationships feel deeply intimate on many different levels whereas others can […]
Initiation
This blog post is to be read with the understanding that sex always requires consent to be freely given, reversible, informed, enthusiastic and specific. Initiation. Who would have thought that initiating sex in a safe, secure relationship could be so difficult? Usually there’s one partner in the relationship that is chief initiator. They take responsibility […]
Triangular Theory of Love
One of my favourite theories I learned when studying was Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love. Essentially, his theory is that there are three components of love… Intimacy: the closeness a partner feels and the bond that binds them togetherPassion: romantic feelings, physical attraction and sexual intimacyCommitment: acknowledging love and being committed to maintaining the relationship […]
Love Stories: Beth and Afshin
Beth is from Wigan, UK and Afshin is from Tehran, Iran. They met and fell in love in Wigan and now have a beautiful life together in Edinburgh, Scotland. How did you meet? We met when working at the same coffee shop. I was the barista and he was in the kitchen. I’d make him […]
My Journey to Healthy Sexuality
I used to believe that sexuality was something for marriage. I had decided to do what I believed was right: to wait until I was married to have sex. So, as a sixteen year old with my first boyfriend, I was surprised to find that not having sex until I was married was probably going […]
Has ick gone too far?
Babes, let me tell you that when I started dating Ben I was experiencing some let’s say ‘aversions’ to his clothes and some of the things he said. He knows this. The blessing for me was that back in ’06 we didn’t have language to attach to our ‘icks’. Some of the things I wasn’t […]
Pillow Talk
Some of our most vulnerable conversations happen in bed. The nights when we can’t sleep or we need to share before we sleep. The conversations we want to have but don’t want to be sat opposite each other to have. In all honesty, these can go either way. Here are some tips to help with […]
Who’s in your bed?
I was wondering about who you let into your bed. Sure, there’s possibly your partner but who else is there? I’ve found that it’s often far too easy to let other people in there with us. Too often have I realised that someone else has crept their way into my intimate space (our intimate space) […]